There are a variety of answers or attempted explanations for this age-old question:
Human nature as the cause?
Some researchers believe that humans are hardwired cheat The DRD4 gene variant in particular is said to be responsible for this. Other researchers believe that men are programmed to spread their genes as widely as possible. In any case, genes can also be a cause of cheating . However, it is doubtful to use this as some kind of excuse for wrongdoing.
The allure of the forbidden and curiosity
Other reasons seem to be the famous allure of the forbidden and curiosity . In many relationships, a certain routine or even boredom creeps in over time. Or there is another cause. In many cases, an affair occurs when one of the partners feels neglected and unappreciated by the other.
It is therefore advisable to recognize warning signs in a relationship early on and take them seriously. If necessary, countermeasures should also be taken in good time if the relationship is still dear to you.
It may even be necessary for one or both partners to rethink things, for example you can take a step back from your career and take a little more time for your partner. Many couples can't do this if everyday life and other goals have too much of a hold on them. Curiosity as well as the famous allure of the forbidden never really lets people go completely. As we all know, forbidden fruits always taste best...
So it's not so surprising that affairs are relatively common and the tendency to have affairs seems to be spreading like wildfire. In couples where the sexual attraction of the partner seems to disappear in everyday life and routine, our genetic programming or the attraction of the forbidden often do the rest and an affair, a sexual adventure or an affair occurs .
The interplay of inner drives, fantasies and problems in the relationship is often overwhelming and leads us into strange beds.
The following video from Pro7 also deals with the question: “How difficult is it for the partners in a relationship to really remain faithful?”
Common mistakes when cheating
Finally, it can be said that there are definitely some reasons for affairs and affairs. I don't want to judge that from a moral point of view. Maybe an affair can even revive a relationship that has fallen asleep. However, the dangers of such sexual adventures in strange beds should not be underestimated.
It's easy for a man to get his lover pregnant or contract sexually transmitted diseases. That's why you should always use condoms.
The psychological dangers and stresses that can arise from affairs should not be underestimated.
Infidelities keep coming to light and then tragedy takes its course. There are a number of obvious mistakes that can easily be prevented with a little effort. The big affair guide has more detailed information for you here.
Golden rules for successful erotic adventures outside of a relationship
It's best to meet your partner for the erotic excursion in a hotel and pay in cash in order to remain anonymous and not leave any traces. You should also get your own cell phone for contact and never give out your landline number. Another golden rule of thumb is that you should never start an affair in your own company so that you can easily end the romance later.
If you just want an erotic adventure, you should only give the other person your (separate) cell phone number and not give out any other data. This is the only way to prevent yourself from being found or even stalked by friends or the Internet. This means there is no psychological terror after a breakup.
What drives men into strange beds? They are looking for variety, they are “horny”, they have trouble/stress with their own wife and take revenge in this way. I think it's shameful, but obviously there's nothing we can do about it. Of course there are also women who are like that.
I can confirm that you shouldn't start an affair with business colleagues 😉 I used to be very busy, as I like to describe it. However, I've been in a committed relationship for 3 years, I'm absolutely happy and I don't want to cheat anymore!