Flirting safely online – that should be a real concern for all of us.
News like this hits us particularly hard and rightly unsettles us:
“Christian G. met 300 women on the Internet. As “Riddick300,” he distributed virtual roses and kisses. He killed two of them. Be careful with chat acquaintances: Read here what you need to pay attention to.”
The magazine Stern reported in 2009 under the following link:
www.stern.de/tv/sterntv/online-dating-sicher-flirten-im-netz-655274.html
It wasn't just Christian G's cold-bloodedness that was shocking: the naivety of the women who met him was also deeply disturbing.
This incident is now over 2 years old, but the problem of naivety on the Internet is still as explosive today. It is strongly recommended that important rules of conduct are followed to make flirting online safer. Flirting online can and should be a pleasure - with the rules of conduct listed below you can do it with great confidence.
Here is a small overview of important rules for flirting on the Internet (source: stern.de):
Choose reputable providers
If you are looking for a provider where you can flirt safely, always choose a platform with customer service and address verification that uses a copy of your ID card to check whether the user actually exists. There should also be a filter function that allows you to block emails from annoying people.
So please accept that the offer may cost something and registration may take a little more time. More tips and advice on the topic of safety when dating online can be found here .
Avoid suggestiveness
Ambiguous and suggestive nicknames that include the addition of “hot” or “sexy,” for example, can give the impression that you are easy to get. The same applies to erotic banter in the chat room and provocative photos in underwear or bikinis.
The following applies here: the more serious you appear on the Internet, the higher the likelihood that serious men will contact you. So use a neutral nickname and upload a photo where your face is clearly visible
E-mail contact
Don't give out your private email address right away, especially if it includes your first and last name or even your company name. So either stick with your provider's so-called internal messaging, or set up an email address with a large provider (such as GMX or web.de) that you use specifically for chat acquaintances. Your identity should not be recognized here.
Make a phone call
Feel free to make a phone call if you are interested in your online acquaintance. You can ask more spontaneous questions on the phone (pay attention to whether the answers are stammering or fluent!). In addition, voice and tone play an important role in flirting.
The best thing to do is to get his phone number and make the first call yourself - with the number suppressed. The first time he calls, give him your cell phone number. With a bit of luck, you can get your address details very quickly via the landline number. If he insists on using the landline number, don't be polite. Any man with common sense should understand that a woman needs to be careful.
Personal Information
Only say things online that do not endanger your anonymity. Be careful with men who say little about themselves but want to find out more about you!
Here you should rely on your common sense: someone who, for example, does not want to show a picture of themselves, often contradicts themselves and reveals little about themselves, could have something to hide.
Save his emails and ask one or two questions from the beginning again. Does he give the same answer? If necessary, have a friend chat with him and see if he tells her the same things he tells you.
Most “fakes” who are online under a false identity lie spontaneously and days later can no longer remember who they told what.
First date
You shouldn't wait too long before meeting for the first time. Because when you see your online acquaintance, you can get a much better picture of him: Non-verbal signals such as smell, body language or tone of voice play an important role in choosing a partner.
For the first meeting, you should under no circumstances arrange to meet at your or his apartment, have him pick you up at home, or meet in a lonely place.
Arrange to meet at a neutral place where there are a lot of people and that you know well. Tell a friend about the meeting and arrange a time when you will contact her and let her know that everything is okay. Keep your cell phone handy, travel independently, and walk home alone.
Listen to instincts
Be rude if you have to. If your gut feeling tells you it's better to leave, then do that.
Flirt safely online - with this advice on flirting online you should be prepared for the future. Have fun flirting and dating.
