17 Must-Have Bondage, SM and Fetish Toys, BDSM Furniture and Scene Accessories – Part 1

Bondage and BDSM games have long since gained popularity outside of the relevant scene. The appeal of sadomasochism, bondage and pleasurable punishment has reached a broad section of the population, not least thanks to the successful erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey”.

The practices that were originally reserved for the BDSM community have made their way into the mainstream. Millions of women and men have fantasies along these lines or have already had their first experiences with dominance, submission and physical punishment.

Wearing a striking choker made of leather and studs is still not an everyday occurrence, but it is becoming increasingly common, especially in big cities. It's become a little bit more normal and that's a good thing.

bondage and BDSM are two completely different topics, that should be made clear at this point. Members of the scene take this very seriously.

However, since there is a lot of overlap in the toys and accessories used and they are used in both areas, for the sake of simplicity I have decided bondage and BDSM under one umbrella in this article. May the community forgive me

Basic information about quality and contact points

Before we dive into the 17 favorite BDSM toys and accessories , I'd like to point out that, surprisingly, the best quality fetish items are made by individuals or small companies, not big brands.

So if you are serious about it and want quality, you should, if possible, first look into the local fetish scene, go to the relevant specialist shop and take part in fetish fairs. In addition to exciting new products, you will also find everything else your fetish heart desires.

If you are not lucky enough to live in a vibrant metropolis with a dedicated BDSM community, or if it is few and far between, then looking on the Internet can also help. In addition to specialized online shops and established retailers such as Steeltoyz , it is also worth taking a look at the “handmade” marketplace Etsy (great unique pieces and masterful craftsmanship from true experts in their field) and a visit to FetLife , the world's largest social network for BDSM and Fetish community. The latter is considered the “Facebook for the kink community” for good reason.

If your budget is too tight for individual items and genuine handcrafts, then we have a few tips on good, accessible and, above all, affordable online alternatives for purchasing fetish and BDSM toys.

The best and most popular BDSM toys

I. SM Toys & Bondage Toys

1. Spanking

For those who enjoy a bit of pain, spanking (the spanking, slapping, or slapping of body parts such as buttocks) can be quite intoxicating.

This category includes whips, crops, paddles, floggers, dildo whips, bullet whips and the like.

Spanking tools don't have to be expensive. Hands, wooden spoons and flat hairbrushes are common tools that you can easily find in your own home. However, if you want to take things a little further, dedicated tools are hard to beat.

Floggers are popular tools that are also suitable for beginners because they distribute their effect across their multiple tails. To avoid serious injuries, you should still proceed carefully and not overdo it at the beginning.

Can also be used to gently tickle your victims to build sexual tension and anticipation.

Riding crops , also known as whips, are fun and accessible. The small impact zone also means they can be used in a concentrated manner. Still, be careful during the game as they are quite aerodynamic in nature, so you could easily overshoot the desired target.

Paddles have the largest impact zones among spanking tools, so you're more likely to get a dull, flat blow than a sting. Of course, the material used plays a big role, as leather paddles, for example, pull more than wooden paddles.

Remember that you need to be extra careful with bony areas and avoid tailbones at all costs.

2. Nipple clamps

Whether for sensual pleasure, breast torture, or as a form of stimulus suppression, nipple clamps can play many roles in SM lovemaking.

But one thing you quickly become aware of when you take a closer look: there are almost as many different types of nipple clamps as there are sand on the sea. This can quickly cause the inexperienced newcomer to feel overwhelmed.

Whether you feel increased pleasure or pain and torture depends primarily on your nipple sensitivity and the clamp used.

This plays an important role in choosing the right nipple clamp for you. Clamps may be declared by the manufacturer or provider to be used to increase pleasure, but if you are particularly sensitive, they may still be completely unsuitable for this purpose. If in doubt, contact the provider and get advice.

The stimuli experienced during nipple play can also be enhanced by using weighted or vibrating clamps.

Depending on the strength of their springs, ordinary clothespins and so-called crocodile nipple clamps

Since these are usually not adjustable in terms of strength, they can also be hit and miss. This is especially true for online orders, as you cannot test them before purchasing.

If you decide to use common clothespins made of plastic or wood, you should dispose of them after use.
They cannot be completely disinfected. Screw clamps and adjustable nipple clamps with a mounting ring are the most versatile of the bunch, which is why they are my preferred choice.

The intensity of this type of clamp is adjusted by a small screw on the clamp itself. Therefore, these can cause either pain or increased pleasure depending on how tight you adjust them.

Tweezer clamps, on the other hand, are somewhat less precise because they are loosely held together by a ring that slides up and down the length of the clamps to adjust their clamping action. It's not uncommon for them to become loose in the heat of the moment, forcing you to readjust them during lovemaking.

The biggest advantage of forceps clamps is that they are much smaller and more precise, providing the user with sharper, more pinpointed pain and/or more intense stimulation. They also come with a more delicate and feminine look than standard screw terminals.

Nipple pumps and nipple suckers are intended to provide the user's nipples with increased pleasure by sucking out air and creating a vacuum effect. Depending on the model, it is also possible to enter the realm of torture if you continuously suck the air out of the pipes over a longer period of time.

Pumping out the air increases blood flow in the nipple area. This makes the nipples more sensitive, which makes further play with them more intense.

Japanese butterfly or clover braces are the most intense and painful of the bunch.

The principle can be explained as follows: the more you pull on them, the more pressure they exert. Adding chains and shackles can then trigger particularly strong sensations.

Chained nipple clamps are available in almost every type. The chain itself usually adds some reinforcing weight and provides additional appeal. The real kick, however, is using it as a means of submission, dominance and control.

If they are then attached to a post, pillory, St. Andrew's cross or to shackles, chokers or cuffs, the sub's movements can be highly restricted, controlled and completely subordinated to the dominant part. Any sudden movement will pull on the sub's nipples, punishing him with instant pain.

So let's keep this in mind: it doesn't matter if you're looking for pleasure or pain, nipple clamps can be enjoyed by almost every SM fan. With the variety of options available to you, the possible uses and combinations for BDSM games are almost unlimited.

Electrosex / electrostimulation

3. Neon Wands and Electric Whips

Neon wands take your first steps in the field of electrostimulation

The sensations they cause are rather superficial and do not penetrate deeply into the muscle tissue.
This prevents inexperienced users from causing serious damage. When applying, do not stay in the same place for too long as prolonged exposure may cause minor burns. However, this shouldn't be a big problem since it's typical and even natural to vary and keep changing the locations of the body for stimulation.

How does it feel?

Depending on the intensity the wand is set to, it ranges from a gentle tickle to sharp, spiky jabs. Seeing the purple bolts of electricity leave the electrodes and hit the skin is also a big part of the thrill.

Violet Wands - as they are also called due to the color of their electric flashes - come with a variety of different attachments. These vary in their accuracy and thereby distribute the sensations over larger or smaller surfaces. Which extension you choose depends entirely on what you like. This is where it’s all about trying things out and experimenting.

Electrodes are not limited to probes, flat shapes and comb shapes. For example, electric whips and ropes are great options to take your bondage and BDSM game to the next level.

So electrical stimulation doesn't have to be dangerous or complicated. Purple wands are perfect for anyone who wants to keep their stimulation on the surface or wants to try out a little risk-free first.

If, on the other hand, you are more of a die-hard bunch, then the following category will probably suit your needs better... with deep muscle electrostimulation.

4. ESTIM stimulation current kits

Based on medical EMS (electromuscular stimulation), ESTIM over a much smaller surface area than Violet wands, but significantly deeper.

The sensations caused range from pleasant tingling contractions to pronounced muscle pain. Depending on the attachment chosen, the electrodes can be used externally (i.e. on the skin) or internally (through penetration into body openings).

When used on or in genitals, it is common that the contractions can bring orgasm

CAUTION: This procedure can be potentially dangerous if you don't know exactly what you are doing. In any case, obtain sufficient information in advance and be sure to read the safety guidelines and warnings of the devices used carefully.

ESTIM stimulation current devices should never be used on the head or chest as they may disrupt the heart rhythm. This can, in turn, lead to a variety of complications.

In this context, one often encounters the rule of thumb that application below the waist offers the most safety.

Now, if you really want to stimulate the nipples, the safest way is to place one electrode on one nipple and the other somewhere below the waist.

None of the electrodes can be used without power box While most medical EMS or TENS devices also work for use in the SM area, you should ideally stick to dedicated devices from relevant providers.

These are specially made for use in SM comedy and minimize the risk of cell damage and other health complications associated with electric shocks.

The most powerful and popular devices include the ET-312B from Erostek and the E-Stim Systems 2B. These models offer the most features and customization options on the market.

Would you prefer a cheaper, more beginner-friendly option? In this case, the Electropebble may suit your needs better. At the same time a good choice for experienced ESTIM professionals who are looking for a portable alternative to the larger power boxes.

External electrodes are extremely versatile and provide a lot of pleasure when it comes to stimulating the outside of the body and the erogenous zones.

They range from simple medical pads to full-fledged masturbators . With these you need to use a good conductive gel as skin is not the most conductive material and a lack of gel can quickly lead to burns.

Internal electrodes, on the other hand, provide electrode equivalents to almost every sex toy you can think of.

With these, you should avoid silicone-based lubricants because silicone is an insulator. Instead, you should either use a good water-based lubricant or a conductive lubricant specifically made for this purpose.

If finding a conductive lubricant proves difficult, a practical alternative is to add a touch of saline to a traditional water-based lubricant.

When using, be sure to reapply the lubricant as often as possible as water-based gels tend to dry out quickly.

Electrostimulation is a big topic and now has a huge community. For all further questions and for exchanging ideas with like-minded people, the English-language Estim Reddit Wiki an excellent place to go. A must for anyone who wants to immerse themselves in the world of electrosex. If your English is a little rusty, you can use the translation function (Google Translate) to display the texts in German directly in the Google Chrome browser.

ESTIM is literally and figuratively not for the faint of heart, but for those with a bit of experimentation, electrical stimulation can lead to mind-blowing orgasms.

Always err on the side of caution and always follow health guidelines and usage recommendations.

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