Even though the gender discussion has been in full swing again for a few months, we can still say with certainty that the old gender roles have long since begun to break down, or are at least gradually changing.
“She is LOOKING for him” instead of “she is WAITING for him”
This paradigm shift is of course also evident in online dating. It's no longer just men who are actively on the prowl.
If you wander around the contact portals and dating sites for a while, it quickly becomes clear that today's modern, self-determined and self-confident woman does not just passively wait until her profile is noticed by the male gender and the masters of creation compete for themselves They court.
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Many women have long since decided that they no longer want to leave their happiness to chance or lucky coincidence. Rather, they actively search for themselves and approach the male world in a demanding manner.
The fact that the dating jungle is no longer populated almost exclusively by hunters but increasingly by “female predators” is also reflected in the naming of trendy phenomena such as “ cougar dating” (cougar = mountain lion) or “boy toy” (young men). as playmates).
It may be a bit strange for some conservative-thinking male representatives, but formerly proud hunters become prey animals. Upside down world and a new self-image of the emancipated woman. We will probably read “She is looking for him”
Take the offensive successfully as a woman
Of course, people are different and so it can be that a demanding woman who goes on the offensive on a date or actively approaches men during online dating can also cause uncertainty in the other person. Or, as a woman, you may have ended up with a man who prefers a classic distribution of roles or likes it if she makes herself rare.
article in the magazine for singles on the personal ad site bildkontakte.de makes it clear that it can be worthwhile for a woman to take the reins into her own hands .
It sounds obvious that men also like to be courted. That's why it can be well received by men if the woman also makes clear statements. Finally, just as there are many reserved women, there are also some shy men. Anyone who takes the initiative as a woman can achieve happiness more quickly.
This offensive tactic only requires a little tact: it shouldn't be too much of a good thing. As much as many men want a direct approach, it can come across wrong if the man interprets the woman as saying "she needs it." Even if this does not happen on an intellectual level, in this case the value of the woman decreases in the eyes of the man being courted.
Avoid this mistake by playing with him a little and not letting him be too sure of himself. You can achieve this, for example, by withdrawing an offer from time to time or by being a little mysterious.
At the same time, you should still give the man a little freedom to make his own decisions. Don't put the gun to his chest. If you are offensive and interesting at the same time, then you are almost certain of success.
“single whisperers” and advice authors Oliver Stöwing, Stefan Woinoff and Martin Fraas also give similar advice in this direction – see the interview on the subject of partnership in the girlfriend .
Female initiative in casual dating
The tips in the previous section are particularly successful on classic dating sites or on real dates with serious intentions. But today's active mountain lioness is increasingly looking for her "prey" on the so-called casual dating sites. What is the situation in this area?
More and more women who are bursting with self-confidence and are successful in their professional lives no longer want to forego the pleasures of carnal pleasure just because they perhaps do not want a long-term relationship or because they have too little free time, too high demands, or an irrepressible desire for independence have put plans on hold.
Dating portals for an uncomplicated and non-binding type of partnership offer an ideal hunting ground. C-Date.de , Lovepoint.de and Ashley Madison are particularly popular at the moment .
There is no silver bullet to a successful casual date. But if you take the initiative and actively look for contacts, you have every chance of living out your fantasies together, according to the Secret.de in the Secret Guide.
Accordingly, there are significantly higher chances of success with more active women in the community. As a result, the Secret team clearly advises women to be more proactive.
The operators' experience shows that users who access other profiles and actively look for seductive contacts receive far more messages than those who wait for him to make the first step.
In addition, most men at Secret apparently like it when women state directly what they want from him right from the start.
