After hyping and ghosting , a new, nasty dating scam is now becoming more and more widespread and is leaving young girls in particular as victims. Reason enough to provide information and information about so-called “pigging” and to give some advice on effective protection against it.
It's one thing to suddenly be dumped by an innocuous vacation flirt. In most cases, we take this possible outcome into account and don't necessarily have too high hopes for eternal love right from the start.
But it's a completely different matter when we get to know and love a person through online dating and, after weeks or even months of writing back and forth, chatting and making phone calls, are finally looking forward to the first meeting.
And then it's not exactly around the corner, which is why we spend a long time saving for the flight and finally arrive at the destination airport full of joy and are just waiting to be welcomed with open arms by our online date.
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But then there is no one there. Nothing except a text message telling you it was all a sick joke and calling you a “fat, ugly pig .
This scenario is cruel and seems surreal to us. Nevertheless, it is now happening to more and more young people. Sadly, one can speak of a bad online dating trend.
For example, one affected person described in a talk show:
“I met him while on holiday in Barelona. He was Dutch. We had a beautiful and passionate romance.
When I was back in my home country of England we spoke regularly on the phone and after a month he convinced me to fly to him in Amsterdam for the weekend...
...we talked on the phone until I got on the plane . But when I arrived in Amsterdam, there was no one there to pick me up. I tried to reach him a few times but he stopped answering.
After about 6 hours at the strange airport - when I was already starting to panic a little - I received a message from him in which he wrote to me that everything was just a hardship and that I had “pigged” .”
Pigging – Where does this term come from?
Simply translated into German it means “pigish” and is indeed a hot new scam in the dating world. The origin of the term probably lies in the nasty game “Pulling a Pig” , in which the aim is to woo a girl or young woman who is thought to be chubby or fat, simply because of the boy and his friends think it's funny.
According to an entry in the Urban Dictionary “winner” is the one who woos and picks up the ugliest woman. This disgusting phenomenon has apparently been around since 2014, when British Big Brother to launch an online dating site called “Pull the Pig,” form.
Sexism in Millenial Dating Culture
If you look at developments in the dating scene from a greater distance, pigging does not appear to be an isolated phenomenon.
Rather, it should be seen increasingly brutalized dating culture
In this context, one comes across terms such as “benching” – keeping a second woman on the bench as a reserve, so to speak – or “kittenfishing” or “catfishing” , which involve targeted deception and false information in the social media profile Getting people to meet the respective “profile faker”.
A particularly despicable example of such a dating trend is “chubby chasing ,” whereby men deliberately target fat women in order to win a bet among friends or to shock someone with it. This is heartless, mean and extremely inconsiderate.
At this point I would like to make it clear once again that there is nothing entertaining or funny about pigging. It's a despicable scam that's just ruthless and cruel. In fact, it borders on emotional abuse and should be combated.
Men who consciously and intentionally aim to deceive women they find unattractive, to play with them and later to mock and laugh at them, are not only to be pitied, but also perpetrators who should be held responsible should be.
Under no circumstances should such behavior be trivialized, trivialized or turned a blind eye. It leaves victims often deeply emotionally hurt and hurt. As a result, they can suffer for a long time and their self-esteem is severely affected.
Affected women feel degraded and emotionally abused. It is not just a piece of boy culture or machismo/macho posturing, but an expression of deep-seated sexism , misogyny or even misogyny - similar to what came to the attention of the general public around the scandal surrounding Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein.
Click here for the TV contributions from Pro7 and Sixx :
- Pigging: More and more girls are falling victim to the cruel dating trend
- Pigging is the new dating trend
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I don't understand the dirt! Of course that's bad for women. But when men behave anti-socially, a big problem is opened.
As a man, I experience this every day because society teaches women the anti-social nonsense that men always have to make the first step.
But I should swallow that as a gentleman.
Honestly, women should think about why a handsome man is interested in them. Or are women too stupid for that?